Removing toxic energy from your life can be a lot harder than removing toxic people from your life. The fact of the matter is in comparison removing people is easy, you can block them off social media and choose not to talk to them. Removing toxic energy on the other hand involves having the willpower not to check on toxic people, to not think of toxic people/situations, to completely rid your life of anything that is remotely toxic. All of which is within yourself and therefore inescapable and requires you to put in some work. With that said the results are so rewarding and definitely worth it. I am not a trained professional and this blog post wont help everyone but its always worth a try right?
Everybody at some point or another has had toxic people in their lives whether they’re an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, a bad friend, a family member, a colleague, a neighbor, whoever. Anybody that is a part of your life has the capability to bring toxic energy with them no matter how big or small their role in your life is. For example if you have a really bad neighbor who decides to party all day and all night for nine months then that’s bringing you stress, anxiety, and toxic energy. Even if you don’t talk to them, their toxic energy is affecting you. Equally so the people closest to you such as your family can bring toxic energy to your life by not being supportive of you, or putting all their stress on to you. Everyone you encounter can bring you toxic energy and for that reason you will never be able to completely rid your life of toxic energy, you can however take control of the energy you’re allowing into your life. There are four important things to remember before taking yourself on this journey:
- You are the most important person in your own life.
- You can change anything in your life.
- Change takes time.
- Forgive yourself.
Throughout this journey you will constantly need to remind yourself of these three things because its easy to feel guilty when you cut people out, its easy to feel guilty when you don’t find yourself thinking of people, you can feel trapped in certain situations, and you can feel impatient when things don’t change overnight and you might have to try a few times before you finally get rid of the toxic energy. Be patient, be free, and love yourself.
The first step in ridding toxic energy from your life is identifying the toxic people/energy. You need to ask yourself who or what is bringing the toxic energy and how? is it your job? If so is it your job in general or is it a certain aspect of your job? Is it a person you work with? Is it your home? If so is it something within your home, or is it a neighbor or something in the local area? Is it your friends? Or a single one of your friends? Or is it something your friends do? Is it something you do or think about? Where is the toxic energy in your life coming from?
The next step is to identify how you can fix it. Nothing is off limits. OK sure, maybe murder is off limits, but if you don’t like your job don’t be afraid to quit. If you don’t like your home, don’t be afraid to redecorate. If you don’t like where you live, don’t be afraid to move house. If you don’t like how your family treat you don’t be afraid to create distance, or even cut them off. If your partner is the problem, don’t be afraid to leave them. Yes, its so much easier said than done and this is why it will never happen overnight, it will take time and might take a few tries but don’t be afraid to do whatever it takes to remove that toxic energy from your life. This is your life so you owe it to yourself to live your best life, whatever it takes. Once you know what it is you need to do you can make a plan of action with yourself, and that leads to the final step…
Follow your plan of action. As I’ve said it might take you a few tries so don’t beat yourself up about it. If you’re cutting someone off you’re going to miss them, you’re going to want to check on them or their social media, and despite how hard you try you’re going to slip up at the beginning. That’s fine and you can forgive yourself. Its a massive part of the journey, and with it comes a point that you’ll realise you’ve done it, you’ve moved on from this toxic energy that was poisoning your life. There will be times that you ask yourself are you making the right move? As long as you have properly thought about your plan then trust in yourself. Once you reach your destination you’ll see its all been worthwhile. Plans can change though, if something happens which leads you to believe you’ve chose the wrong way to free yourself from the toxic energy then you can always change your plan. You can always find another way out, and the same can be said if you find that you’re unable to follow your plan. If you feel like right now you’re not strong enough try confiding in your nearest and dearest. Tell them what you’re doing and why. Allow them to be your crutch as you find yourself in a new chapter to your story.
Once the toxic energy is gone that doesn’t mean that your journey is over. You have to learn how to be you again. Often this toxic energy becomes a part of who we are and when its gone we can find ourselves a little lost. As soon as we have found ourselves we can rebuild our lives around our new selves. We can build a new life free from the toxic energy that once ruled us. Our life is a fresh page of a new book. We can start at chapter one all over again.
“Today, know that its okay to turn the page, your next chapter is waiting for you!” – Heather Stillufsen